Relationship and Marriage Resources

Below are some resources for improving relationships that we find have been helpful, both for our own journey’s and for our clients’. Feel free to peruse and discuss with your therapist in session!

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary D. Chapman
This is one of the books we recommend the most to couples who seem to be struggling with getting what they need from their partners. The 5 Love Languages is a classic, and helps partners look at how they prefer to give and receive love to figure out where the miscommunication is. Exploring these preferences will help you both experience deeper and more meaningful levels of intimacy.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, Ph.D.
Dr. Gottman is the go-to for strengthening marriages and making your relationship work. Incorporating scientific research, Dr. Gottman has developed seven core principles to guide couples on the path towards a long-lasting, fulfilling relationship. The Seven Principles is probably the definitive guide for strengthening relationships out there. This is another must-read for those seeking marital and relationship advice.

The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John Gottman, Ph.D. and Joan DeClaire
Dr. Gottman does it again in this book that provides a tangible 5-step approach to healing your relationships with the people you love the most – your partners, children, parents, and close friends. The Relationship Cure will show you how to improve their emotional connection and improve the way you connect with others. If you’re feeling disconnected, lonely, or like your relationships are shallow, this is an important book to read and apply to your life.

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage: America’s Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship by John Gottman, Ph.D. and Julie Schwartz Gottman, Ph.D.
The field of marriage and couples counseling was shocked when Dr. Gottman and his colleagues announced they could predict with 90% accuracy whether a marriage would succeed or fail using scientific observation and mathematical analysis. While we can predict which marriages will fail, there weren’t many tools in place at the time to tell us how to fix them. In this book, Dr. Gottman teamed up with his wife to lay out the tools we can all use to turn our relationship challenges into a long-lasting, healthy relationship. There’s something for everyone in this book, and it’s certain to improve the way you communicate with your partner to get what you need.

Deal Breakers: When to Work On a Relationship and When to Walk Away by Bethany Marshall
We have heard the adage that relationships are hard work – and it is true… But how hard should they be? If you are someone struggling to figure out why your relationship is so difficult, whether it’s you or him, or whether you’re too “emotionally needy,” this is a must-read for you. Sometimes, despite all your best efforts, some relationships just can’t be what you hope them to be. Deal Breakers helps readers examine whether they are dating an emotionally unavailable man, and whether you need to get out of a relationship that is unfulfilling by focusing on the present – not the beautiful future you’re holding out hope for. Dr. Marshall helps readers set healthy boundaries and deal breakers to finally create the happiness you deserve.


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